One of the regular
fights arguments heated discussions around our house is about chores. Who does more? Who has more down time? Whose efforts are more valuable?
I'll be the first to admit that it is a ridiculous, immature, and pointless
battle conversation. It's ridiculous because there really is no solution. We will both always feel like we get the short end of the stick.
Since becoming a stay-at-home mom, I think the discussion has taken on even more heat. This is probably due to my own insecurities regarding the value of contributions. I bring in no money, so are my contributions less valuable? My husband would say no, but that nagging voice inside my head still wonders if that's the whole truth. That little nagging voice is a real bitch sometimes.
Anyway, as we continue to work through these issues and rehash this discussion again and again, what I want to know is this: How does your family divide the labor? What, if any, services do you pay to have done for you? (Yard maintenance, housekeeping, home improvements, etc.) Is this a battle at your house? And if not, how have you overcome it?
And if you're curious, here's how some of ours are divided. (This is definitely not all inclusive.)
Breakfast Cooking Lunch Prep/Cook
Breakfast Clean-up Lunch Clean-up
Dinner Clean-up Most dinner cooking
Cat Boxes Floor care (vacuuming, mopping, sweeping)
Mowing (not all lawn care) Pick-up
Bathroom Cleaning Laundry
(*The stubborn in me had to be sure to include one more on my side than A. I'm a meany.)